“It is strange how often a heart must be broken before the years can make it wise.”— Sara Teasdale
Revati sat alone in her quiet room, relishing in the peacefulness that came with solitude. As a woman who values her independence and strength, she has always been confident in her power to endure any challenge that comes her way. Revati enjoyed having time to reflect and recharge but simultaneously couldn’t help feeling the sharp pain of loneliness. Her broken heart was in a lot of pain. She longed for someone to share her thoughts and feelings with, but the fear of vulnerability and rejection often held her back.
“I crave solitude, but not loneliness,” Revati whispered, feeling her emotions heavy on her heart.
As she whispered her thoughts to herself, she couldn’t help but wonder if someone out there felt the same way she did. The weight of loneliness had been slowly crushing Revati’s spirit for months, and the recent loss of a family member only added to her pain. Despite her strength and independence, she couldn’t help but feel neglected and isolated in her relationship with her partner. The broken promises were too much for her to endure. She couldn’t shake off the emotions and hoped that things would eventually change for the better.
But as days turned weeks and weeks into months, Revati felt increasingly isolated, alone and shattered. Revati questioned whether she was at fault or needed more improvement.
Eventually, Revati started recognizing and accepting her emotions, even the uncomfortable ones. She realized that she needed to take charge of her emotional well-being. She understood the importance of identifying triggers that may cause emotional distress and establishing healthy coping mechanisms, such as exercise, mindfulness, or talking to a trusted friend or therapist.
With a compassionate therapist’s help, Revati could identify the patterns in her relationship that were causing her pain. She soon realized that her partner had consistently ignored her needs and mistreated her. Revati knew that she deserved better than this. Determined to reclaim her self-worth, Revati set firm boundaries with her partner and communicated her needs. She also made a conscious effort to prioritize self-care and to indulge in activities that brought her joy and fulfilment.
Revati surrounded herself with positive and supportive people who uplifted her and made her feel valued. She felt more confident and empowered as she took control of her life and relationships. Doing that made her realize she didn’t need someone else to make her happy – she could create her happiness. Reflecting on her journey, Revati felt proud of herself for taking charge of her life and forging her path. It took time, and she put in years of effort to reach there. She knew it was worth it and that she had gained a newfound strength and resilience and was excited to see what the future held.
The Science of Heartbreak:
Like Revati, it’s common to feel hurt and broken when the people we love ignore us. Being overlooked can make us feel insignificant, unimportant, and unworthy. It’s a painful experience that can leave us emotionally drained and brokenhearted. Dealing with a broken heart can be one of the most challenging experiences a person can go through.
Many studies examine the physical and emotional effects of a breakup/loss of a relationship on the human body and mind. Researchers have found that when we experience heartbreak, it is common to experience symptoms like headaches and nausea because of the release of chemicals like cortisol and adrenaline. Additionally, the emotional pain of heartbreak can cause depression, anxiety, and other mental health issues.
It’s important to remember that healing takes time, and everyone’s journey differs. Sometimes, being ignored by loved ones can lead to depression and anxiety. It can make us question our self-worth and ability to connect with others. It can make one feel lonely and isolated. If you’re experiencing this type of emotional pain, it’s important to remember that you’re not alone. Many people go through similar experiences, and seeking support from friends, family, or a therapist is okay.
How to deal with a broken heart and move forward?
You can take some steps to help yourself through this difficult time:
- First, it’s essential to allow yourself to feel your emotions. Don’t try to push them away or pretend they aren’t there. Allow yourself to cry, scream, or do whatever you need to release your emotions. It’s a healthy way to cope with the pain of a broken heart.
- I would encourage you to try to keep yourself busy. Whether it’s picking up a new hobby or throwing yourself into work, distracting yourself can be a helpful way to cope.
- Getting out of the house and spending time with friends and family can also help you feel less alone.
- Another critical step is to practice self-care. Include physical care in your routine by practicing meditation, and yoga, eating well, and getting enough sleep. It can also include taking care of your mental health by practicing mindfulness, journaling, or seeking support from a therapist.
- Always remember that you deserve respect and kindness in a relationship. If someone consistently ignores or treats you poorly, it may be time to reevaluate the relationship and consider setting boundaries.
- Your emotional well-being is essential, and you can take control of your life and relationships. Focus on self-care, surround yourself with positive and supportive people, and trust that you deserve love and happiness.
- Lastly, remember that a broken heart takes time to heal. It’s okay to grieve a relationship’s loss and take as much time as you need to heal. Be patient with yourself and trust that you will find happiness and love again.